Your Gender. Your Life. Your Guide.

Are you wrestling with questions surrounding your gender identity that just don’t seem to “go away?” Do you want answers to your questions about your gender identity, but aren’t sure how to get started?

In You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery, Dara Hoffman-Fox LPC guides you step-by-step along the path of self-discovery – allowing you to find and embrace your authentic self.

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Watch the book trailer for "You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery" to find out:

  • Why Dara became a counselor?
  • How working with gender questioning, trans/transgender, and nonbinary clients become Dara's main focus?
  • Why Dara began to create resources for gender questioning, trans/transgender, and nonbinary persons across the world?
  • Why Dara decided to write and publish 'You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery'?

What You'll Learn.

In this groundbreaking workbook, Dara Hoffman-Fox LPC – accomplished gender therapist and thought leader whose articles, blogs and videos have empowered thousands worldwide – helps navigate your journey of self-discovery. You’ll learn how to:

Your gender is a core element of who you are and affects all areas of your life—greater awareness of this can lead to clarity and a stronger sense of self.
Resources, connection and self-care can help you stay on the challenging path of self-discovery.
Understanding and facing your fears head-on can be one of the most empowering parts of the journey.
Reflecting through the lens of gender exploration can help make sense of past experiences and how they formed who you are today.
Thorough, step-by-step exercises and gentle contemplation not only help reveal your true self, but also allow you to travel at your own pace.
You will have a deeper understanding of your gender, yourself, and the options for “what’s next” so you can express this authentic self to the world.

The Three Stages Of Self-Discovery

Undergoing a journey of self-exploration where you are examining your gender identity can be overwhelming. You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery offers a clear, three-stage path you can follow at your own pace.

Stage One


The journey begins by preparing for what’s to come, solidifying your motivation, revealing fears and building a support system.

Stage Two


We move ahead by looking back—making sense of thoughts, feelings and behaviors you may not have understood before.

Stage Three


Through easy-to-follow exercises we’ll actively explore your gender identity, layer-by-layer, so you can form a more complete, authentic picture of yourself.

What Others Are Saying

You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery begins with introductions from three prominent voices in the transgender community:

Introduction writer, Zander Keig, LCSW

Zander is the co-editor of Letters for My Brother: Transitional Wisdom in Retrospect and Manning Up: Transsexual Men on Finding Brotherhood, Family & Themselves. "I wish a book like You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery had been available when I began to question my gender identity back in 1997. Had I been exposed to the concepts found within these pages back then, I might have been spared some of the intrapersonal and interpersonal struggles that ensued."

Introduction writer, Sam Dylan Finch

Sam Dylan Finch is a transgender writer ("Let's Queer Things Up!"), activist, and editor (Everyday Feminism). "Whether you feel like you’re living a lie and you’re ready to embrace your truth, or you’re simply unsure of what’s been pulling at your heart, this book is for anyone who wants to explore their gender more deeply—regardless of what your gender may be or how far along you are."

Introduction writer, Zinnia Jones

Zinnia Jones is a trans feminist writer, video blogger ("Gender Analysis"), and activist. "With an impressively detailed toolkit of exercises, Dara’s book has the potential to streamline and accelerate the process (of awareness and self-understanding) in an extraordinary fashion... You and Your Gender Identity: A Guide to Discovery is revolutionary."

Andrea James

Andrea James is a writer, director, producer, and activist. "This wonderful contribution to gender-focused self-help literature emphasizes positivity and affirmation. Dara provides many wonderful insights and tools that will help readers improve all aspects of their lives, not simply gender identity and expression!"

Jessica E., Colorado

"If you're one of the thousands of people questioning your gender identity, to any degree, then, You And Your Gender Identity: A Guide To Discovery by Dara Hoffman-Fox LPC is quite an opportunity for you to find the answers you are looking for with your own unique situation. This book uses a workbook format allowing each reader to find answers to their own particular gender identity questions. Had this book been available when I was in my teens or twenties, I may have avoided sixty years of wondering, denying and questioning my own identity. To paraphrase a quote Dara uses in the book she has, with this guide, tried to free your mind. She can only show you the door. You must walk through it."

Aimee Martz Dick MA, LPC, Colorado Springs, CO

"As a psychotherapist who works with TRANS people, I find this workbook to be an invaluable source of guidance. It offers a hands-on means of unpacking the complexities of discovering one’s gender identity. Presented in a workbook format, it provides clients a productive and insightful means of working both in session as well as at home."

Samantha Kelly, Manteca, California

"I would recommend this book to anyone, of any age, who is curious about themselves and whether they just might be transgender. That was me six years ago. If I had had this book, I might have liked me sooner than I did. This book can help partners, family and friends of someone who is transgender and go through the process of discovery together. There will always be a struggle as you transition and if you follow the guidance in this book, you may come to find out you are stronger for it."

Chris Damron, Sterling, Virginia

"When I saw this book and began to read it, it made me cry. It’s like having your mom sit along side of you and explain what is going on. It's comforting to have something to help you on the journey of self discovery. This book hits the nail on the head, but in a loving manner. Can't wait to see what comes of this fantastic read!"

Mx Steffen Christiansen, Warrensburg, Missouri

"Reading Dara’s book was an amazing godsend! It helped provide clear and easy signposts to follow along the path of my own journey. The journey to finding “your own” gender identity can be confusing and fraught with obstacles, so it was nice to have a guide who is not only a therapist but a person that has gone through this experience themselves. Dara does not tell you what to be but provides ways to figure out for yourself who you are and what you want to express to the world."

About the Author

DARA HOFFMAN-FOX LPC (they/them/theirs) is a queer-identified gender therapist, writer, educator, and subject matter expert. Frequently serving as a subject-matter expert on transgender and nonbinary issues for the media, Dara is a prolific thought leader on the topic of gender identity whose articles and videos have empowered thousands worldwide. Dara provides educational resources through a blog, YouTube channel, social media networks, trainings and presentations.

Dara Hoffman-Fox LPC

“My mission is to create a welcoming, safe, and supportive world in which those who are transgender and nonbinary are free to be their authentic selves.”

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A guide and workbook, all in one!
Page Count: 280 pages // Book size: 6x9​
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